Sharing the tables w/ civilians
AM
I know what you mean about feeling bad wonging out. A few times of going to the restroom and leaving a happy table (even the civilians enjoyed the benefits of the high count as the dealer busted hand after hand and they all picked up on the wisdom of playing conservatively when the dealer is busting) only to return to sullen faces and low stacks all around can get to you. I got over it when I realized that they were sullen and angry *at me* for leaving and *gasp!* CHANGING THE FLOW!
I actually once kept a very pleasant elderly civilian woman at my table as the count turned positive. She had been losing through the beginning of the shoe, and got up to leave just when the advantage turned in our favor. I motioned for her to stay, "Give it a few more hands. The cards are bound to change!" "You think so?" "Yeah, stay with me awhile. I have a good feeling." So, most APs would call me an idiot. The lady played her progression, and I spread to two hands through a monster count and we both made some money. Call me a sucker, but I felt good about that. This is the only time I have done this, but it still makes me smile thinking of her joyously coloring up at the end of that shoe. "OK...NOW we'll BOTH go!"
I no longer sweat wonging in/out on people, or them doing the same to me. Yes, when I know a counter has wonged in on me I get a little annoyed-- but I know I've done the same to others. Innocently wonging in is not the same as letting someone else do all the work for you and then jumping in and basically stealing part of his paycheck.
As for hurting the civilians with spreading/wonging, etc. I stopped worrying about that about the time I stopped being able to get a heads up game. I sit down and ***whooooosh*** it's full of civilians. I get up and go to another empty table and **whooooosh** they follow. Forget about telling them you like to play alone, they don't care. If they see someone winning, they think you're good luck and will haunt you to your dying day... civilian turned ploppy before your eyes. Yelling at you for splitting 9s, crticizing just about everything, trying to turn the rest of the table--and the dealer--against you!! So, I don't worry about it and spread and wong away when given the opportunity. Just like a counter can wong out any time she likes, a civilian can learn to count any time he likes.
As for spreading to two hands. If I discover I have joined a game that another counter is working, though, I believe spreading to two hands is in poor form if he is not doing so. I'm not sure why exactly, but this just feels rude to me! To play through the count and leave seems to be the right thing to do.
TW