aslan
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I think you nailed it.jack said:I really dont see him as using the hand shake as a Method to keep you from slandering him after he left. I've known people who go well out of their way, to make sure their the last ones to leave the party, to make sure they're the ones doin the talkin, and not the ones being talked about. Of course I can only speculate from what I've heard, but it sounds like, he at least showed "Good faith" in some kind of attempt of remaining friends. In other words, he at least didnt want to leave on a bad note. More than likely, it was a easy and comfortable way for him to say good-by, followed by him going out to his Vehicle and calling you every name in the Book, while hitting the steering wheel of his car.
Most cheaters are theives. And most theives are cheaters. The two go together like "popcorn and butter". "You cant have one without the other."
There's always different reasons as to why these Weasels are the way that they are. Some do it, because they need to(or think they do) while others do it for egotistical reasons or a little of both.
I believe, he would of acted the same way in private. In that, he acted no differently in fear of what the surronding people may or may not hear. Meaning he was defending his integrity for self conscious and personal reasons. Just like a unfaithful person does upon being discovered. People that think of themselves with High Morale, have a Natural tendency to protect this image of themselves at whatever the cost. Some honestly fool themselves into believing this way, while others are fully aware of their conscious. The possibilties are infinite, in where a % plays a role, in each aspect of our actions, and why we use excuse's, in a attempt to justify, the reasons in why, we say and do the things that we do.
I have always kept this person close to me because they say keep your friends close and your enemies even closer. He is one of those guys who is always waiting for you to show some sign of weakness and then instead of warning you of your vulnerability as a friend would do, he will figure a way to take advantage of you. For example, when he use to play pool himself, he would play different people with whom he had deveolped a close personal relationship and acquire an advantage that would net him tens or hundreds of thousands of dollars, all the while faking friendship and fairness. One guy who was one of his "best friends" he used to gamble with when the guy got drunk, He got him for at least $50,000. He has told me in the course of our discussions that he rationalizes things by saying that someone is going to win his friend's money, it might as well be him. It would never occur to him to try and be a real friend and warn the person that he was in danger.
Oddly, he appears to have strong family ties, and is well liked by those he doesn't gamble with.
I have also noticed that he likes to give stuff to people (tomatoes from his garden, for example) in hopes of reaping a much larger return favor. The reason I know this is because he has told me stories where different people actually did reward him with really large gifts for small favors. Quite a piece of work, this guy. Recently, he appeared to take offense when he walked in on me giving a gift to a close friend of mine after a trip to NYC. I'm sure he was thinking, where's my gift? Didn't I give him some tomatoes from my garden, he was saying to himself?
He told me about a guy who cheats at gin rummy by memorizing a run of cards, putting them on the bottom of the deck, making sure not to shuffle these botton cards, so then when his opponent cuts the cards, he has his sequence of cards in play. Now I know from our latest discussion that he must consider this to be "card knowledge," not cheating. It's similar to blackjack card sequencing, except for the fact that he isn't just tracking a sequence, he is making it happen, a distinction that would be entirely lost on him. lol I'm afraid he is a born cheater whose modus operandi is to take advantage of friendship, a pretty despicable practice in my opinion.
He's got me to the point where I am looking for a way to take advantage of him. Would you have any qualms about hustling this hustler?