This is a common misconception with many inexperienced players. Although I agree it matters not at all what other gamblers think, it is just the same with casino staff. That is reality, but in what needs to be perceived, all involved in the play need to at least feel you are not a threat and fit in, even if its not pleasant to be around. Being buddy buddy with the pit is not always the best move if you are going to play the venue on your regular circuit. But leaving the pit wanting to be your friend while you seemingly are non caring over the whole deal is actually the best scenario. When you get your persona to the point where people are attracted to your charisma, other gamblers and pit alike, you hold quite a powerful card. Its not about chatting with casino personnel, its about them wishing they could. There's alot to be learned in how to excude the charisma that allows you to basically control people, but being chatty really is the opposite of it. Funny, sounds like the pompous american attitude, but I'm actually dually citizened, maybe its just a trait of success.QFIT said:My point is that we need to meld with the environment. When I am in a casino, I am chatting with the staff. I really don’t care about the gamblers in the casino. I rarely talk to them and don’t give a crap about their views. I want the staff to feel comfortable with my presence.
I stopped reading after this sentence since this is what nearly every post of yours for YEARS and multiple aliases has stated and I am certain that the rest of the post, as always, will put words in my mouth that I have never stated nor believed. YES, we all know that you are the only real player and the rest of us are all nothing. You don't have to keep repeating this. We understand. We are not worthy.MAZ said:This is a common misconception with many inexperienced players.
You are wrong about the alias' QFIT. That line is getting old. You are way too sensitive. I am not anybody that you THINK I am. But I am somebody that has had direct dealings with your work, and with those you have done work for. You actually did work for me in an indirect way. Now you need to get out of your habit of being so defensive, thats no way to allow someones word to get through. Just because we may disagree on tactics doesn't mean you need to meltdown on me. Like I said before, I respect you, you are a top notch software designer. You add much to the community of bj. But we both know your actual playing is not what gets you the kudos from your peers, but thats exactly what gets it for me. I'm no better than you, just differentQFIT said:I stopped reading after this sentence since this is what nearly every post of yours for YEARS and multiple aliases has stated and I am certain that the rest of the post, as always, will put words in my mouth that I have never stated nor believed. YES, we all know that you are the only real player and the rest of us are all nothing. You don't have to keep repeating this. We understand. We are not worthy.
You need to learn how to make a post without denigrating other people. Post after post of yours starts with a put-down. There is an old saying that "it is not enough that you succeed, your friends must fail." I hope this is not part of your personality. Your last four posts about me included name-calling. Two weeks ago, you started a post by denigrating 95% of the people here. Some people might have found that humorous. They probably didn't realize you were talking about them too.MAZ said:You are wrong about the alias QFIT. That line is getting old. You are way too sensitive. I am not anybody that you THINK I am. But I am somebody that has had direct dealings with your work, and with those you have done work for. You actually did work for me in an indirect way. Now you need to get out of your habit of being so defensive, thats no way to allow someones word to get through. Just because we may disagree on tactics doesn't mean you need to meltdown on me. Like I said before, I respect you, you are a top notch software designer. You add much to the community of bj. But we both know your actual playing is not what gets you the kudos from your peers, but thats exactly what gets it for me. I'm no better than you, just different
If you write a statement such asQFIT said:Take it to ZenZone
I respectfully disagree Q. I make posts in a certain style that speaks truth as well as injecting a tongue in cheek sarcasm that can only be taken personal by those it personally affects.. In this thread I started a post by stating it was a "common misconception of many inexperienced players", is that phrase so wildly offensive...........really? No it is not, and it needs no apology as it is my opinion and is no insult just my observation with not a nasty comment in sight. And 2 weeks ago I made a post that was again a sarcastic remark aimed at no one specifically(although I could have) just to raise awareness to all those who are guilty of such behavior. You can bet that any that were described in that post knew who they were, and any who it didn't describe should surely not be so insecure that it need to insult them.[QUOTE QFIT You need to learn how to make a post without denigrating other people. Post after post of yours starts with a put-down. There is an old saying that "it is not enough that you succeed, your friends must fail." I hope this is not part of your personality. Your last four posts about me included name-calling. Two weeks ago, you started a post by denigrating 95% of the people here. Some people might have found that humorous. They probably didn't realize you were talking about them too
Your posts would have more value if you just skipped the lead-in insult, and just provided your opinion. Then we could discuss your opinion without the distraction of gratuitous put downs. This is not conducive to discussion. Pretend you are in someone's living room having a conversation. Other people in the living room will have different opinions. If you have a better idea, it will prevail of its own value. Declaring that your opinion is correct because of who you are would be pointless even if you weren't anonymous. Think about it -- It's rather odd to claim that your opinion must be correct because of who you are when you are anonymous. There is no need to put down the other persons' backgrounds, looks or anything else. Just make your point.
I have benefited from your good work, and yes it has never cost a dime. As I do know some who have worked both sides, for and against the casino, I, like you, have never worked for a casino. Nor have I ever accused you of such, so I don't know why the need to state this. I may not have been such a help to various amounts of players such as yourself, but I have never betrayed one in my life either.As for "working for you," I have worked with many, many teams and individuals over the years. I have no doubt that you have benefited from that work. But, I have NEVER asked for payment for simulations, strategies, article reviews or advice. And, unlike some of your acquaintances, I have NEVER worked for a casino. I have turned down offers of payment scores of times. I work for the players.
You learn something everyday. As far as I was aware you were not ever a high stakes player. I stand corrected against all here say of others. But I had no problem with that because that was never what made you so important to the bj community anyway. I will have to agree to disagree however with the last part of your last sentence, as that is mere speculation, and sounds a little off to me.BTW, not that it is relevant, but your understanding of my experience is way off base. I have played more high-stakes games with my own funds than the hero of the "we're the only pros" set.
As well as many people, including seasoned pros and authors that don't post anymore because of the good ol boys club mentality of the forum that cannot stand to be told whats right and wrong. Its nice to have a civil group that can get along hold hands and sing cum bay ya together. It makes for a lot of back patting and atta boys, sometimes possibly warranted. But it does not allow for the revelation of truth at times brought in by even those most of these posters idolize as a player. I mean the majority of those who post here are in awe or at least have great admiration of a player like James Grosjean. Yet his posting here was met many times with hostility and head butting because he was not one to gloss over the glaring weakness and disillusionment of so many that are posting here very impractical advice. So even though they all want to buy his books(most of which it will serve no purpose to anyway) they cannot handle the obvious truths that were put forth to their faces. That is laughable. And as such a valuable poster with a mountainous wealth of knowledge is lost. Its also what I find even more offensive then a sarcastic remark. Ignorance, is inexcusable, if one refuses to learn based on the excuse of rudeness when in most realities its just bruised ego, I could not care less about what is a proper way to coddle their insecurities. And just to be noted here, this is in general, not directed at you or any particular party.QFIT said:And many people, including valuable posters, have stopped posting because it just isn't fun. Now, you may feel that there is some badge of honor in putting up with a barrage of insults, and that this shows strength of character, but not everyone was brought up in this manner. Many of us feel that civility aides communication.
With all due respect, you don't know the history.WRX said:This is the most ridiculous dustup I've seen around here in a long time. Kiss and make up.
Qfit implied I was an "ugly" AmericaniCountNTrack said:Okay the thread has been cleaned, please keep in mind that name calling will not be tolerated. So lets try to be civil
From what I hear, you're very attractive. Just not my type.blackjack avenger said:Qfit implied I was an "ugly" American
That's "not" what she said!:joker::whip: